I do a tantric lingam massage. Lingam is the Sanskrit word for penis. And tantric lingam massage is a massage of the whole body including the penis.
We hold negative emotions, pains, and traumas in our bodies. The aches and pains we feel in our bodies are a reflection of the inner pains we feel about ourselves. Tantric lingam massage is a technique that has been used for thousands of years to help us gently release these negative emotions by truly connecting with our bodies and harvesting our sexual energy to heal. By releasing negative emotions we allow ourselves to be open to personal, sexual and spiritual growth. Thus, the touch involved in the massage is not done with arousal or orgasmic intention. The touch is done with joy, wonder, and love to help us grow.
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.